… yeah… um… who can blame him?
Recently, he discovered these weird things on his mommy called “boobies”, and yeah, that’s the name we used to describe them to his impressionable 3-year old mind. Since that fateful day, he has enjoyed staring at boobies and using the word in everyday speech.
“… BOOBIES! hahaaha”
At first, my wife and I scolded him – describing “booby” as a “bad word”. Eventually, the endless “booby” tirades stopped and he only sung the word from time to time. Not so bad, but we were still scolding him.
All throughout the scoldings, something didn’t feel quite right. As I struggle to eventually carve a writing career, I have come to view words as tools – neither good nor evil. Words categorized as “vulgar” are no worse, in my opinion, than any other word. Consider the following examples of some dialog between a father and son:
Sample #1. Father: “You are a disappointment and I’m ashamed to have you as part of the family. I wish you were never born.”
Sample #2. Father: “You are a fuckface shithead.”
The first sample can be said on TV, in the supermarket or wherever. Sure, it’s rude… but, it’s not vulgar. I wouldn’t scold my kids for any of those words individually. However, we as a society scold a single word just because of the form of that word.
That’s just stupid.
After a talk with my wife, we decided to not scold our son any longer for his booby obsession. Instead, we will make it clear that all words are safe at home, but other people may take offense to certain words. Also, being rude or disrespectful is never allowed (in the house or in the world), regardless of vulgar/non-vulgar words.
If I even had a doubt about the validity of my conviction here, I would have continued to scold. However, after talking things through, I’m convinced that our culture has it wrong and I have it right. 🙂